Let’s talk about…
Intimacy, whoopee, rumpy pumpy, hanky panky, lovemaking, nookie, havin’ a romp, or, for fans of the Big Bang – coitus. Regardless of the way we choose to identify sexual activities, it is good to live in a time where we can now openly discuss topics, which were formerly ‘unmentionable’.
So, what we are really going to talk about is, personal lubricants, safe lubricants, ingredients to avoid and why, which lubes are safe to use with condoms and toys, the best, natural personal lubricant choices and the best, organic personal lubricants.
It would be kind of a mood killer to think that you are putting unhealthy gunk on your happy bits! (Click to Tweet)
So, for those of us who are caring, conscious and informed about the foods that we eat and the products that we use on our skin and hair, it only makes sense to choose more natural and organic sex lubes.
A good and safe sex lubricant can really increase the enjoyment of your erotic encounters and for many people it is essential. With a natural personal lubricant, you will feel more confident and relaxed than ever, about ‘hitting the sheets’ for some ‘amorous congress’ in the ‘happy valley’ of the ‘Netherlands’ while ‘winding up your clock’ because ‘all’s well, when ends meet’. Okay, okay, I’ll stop now.
So, for those who love to have fun and mix things up and for those who want some added lubrication, here is some helpful information.
Silicone and Water Based Lubricants
Silicone Based Lubricants
These types of lubricant are derived in a laboratory from the following 3 chemicals, Cyclpentasiloxane, Dimethicone, Dimethiconaol. This type of lubricant may contain other chemical ingredients and synthetic flavouring agents.
- Provides slick long lasting lubrication
- It is marketed as non-toxic because according to the research, due to the size of the silicone molecules, it cannot be easily absorbed by the skin and mucous membranes.
- Can be used with latex condoms
- Can stain clothing and sheets
- Is not water soluble, therefore, it is more difficult to wash off. This factor suggests that unless care is taken to cleanse this substance away thoroughly, it could provide an environment for bacteria to gather.
- Many silicone lubricants are also not safe to use with silicone play toys as the lubricant will cause the silicone of the sex toys to break down after which they are no longer safe to use. If your silicone toys begin to feel gummy, tacky, or look discoloured or porous, these are signs that the silicone has begun to degrade – say good-bye, they are no longer safe to use.
- Is not pleasant tasting, (and in my opinion) it should not be ingested anyway.
Another Concern: This lubricant, while an effective lubricant during penetrative sex, as stated above, it is not water-soluble and soap and water are both needed to wash it off from skin. So, here is the rub. The manufacturers of silicone lubes say that the body will expel the excess that remains following intercourse. However, how long does this take and can they be sure that there are no residues left over the long term? Even if these silicone based lubes do not easily absorb through the skin and mucous membranes, what is happening inside where this stuff is sitting waiting (hopefully) for the body to expel it? I also have to think that in time, the chemical bonds of the product will begin to break down and then whatever residues that have not been expelled will then, begin to be absorbed by the body.
Water Based Lubricants
- Safe for use with latex and non- latex condoms and diaphragms
- Compatible to use with play toys of all materials
- May need to be reapplied more often
- Water based lubricants often contain a large combination of synthetic chemical additives
Here Are Some Typical Ingredients of Concern Found in Water-based Lubricants
Various types of alcohol that severely dehydrate cells leading to cell death and cell damage
Propylene Glycol, Butylene Glycol, Xylitol
Many women report burning and tissue irritation caused by these alcohols
Various parabens, which absorb easily into the skin and disrupt hormone function. They have been found in breast cancer tissue and may also interfere with male reproductive functions
Methylparaben, Propylparaben, Ethylparaben, Butylparaben
Various types of sugars Which as such feed certain types of yeast leading to an imbalance, which then leads to vaginal infections.
Glycerin, Glycerol, Glycerine
Types of anti bacterial ingredients. Many of which are indiscriminant antibacterial agents, meaning they will kill all of the healthy vaginal bacteria, destroying the delicate balance that prevents infections.
More compounds derived from petrochemical industry byproducts
These are petroleum based compounds that increase permeability of the skin and are not safe for use on damaged skin. There are significant concerns that PEG’s are frequently contaminated with ethylene oxide (known human carcinogen) and 1,4 dioxane (possible human carcinogen)
Tocopheryl Acetate (Vitamin E), Vitamin E Acetate
Synthetically manufactured Vitamin E (So, not really Vitamin E at all). These are made from petrochemical compounds and known to be toxic and skin irritants
Here are even more common ingredients of concern, found in water based personal lubricants:
Cellulose Gum, EDTA, Carbomer, Tetrahydroxypropyl Ethylenediamine, , Sodium Benzoate, Potassium Sorbate Polyquaternium 15, Sorbitol, Natrosol 250h, Benzoic Acid, Sodium Hydroxide, Sodium Saccharin, Potassium Acesulfame, Diazolidinyl Urea, Flavor, Citric Acid, Disodium EDTA, Carbomer, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Imidazolidinyl Urea, Sodium Benzoate, Neutrol TE, Tetrasodium EDTA, Sodium Carboxy Methyl Cellulose
Petroleum Based Products Which Are Not Intended To Be Used As Lubricants
While labelling on products such as Vaseline state ‘for external use only’, studies have found that many people still use it as a lubricant during sex.
Regarding the use of any petroleum byproducts for body care:
While our frequent visitors will already know, our stand on petroleum derived ingredients in both internal and personal care products, it really does bear repeating. Anything that is a byproduct of the petroleum industry has no place in our bodies, and things that go on our bodies, are absorbed through the skin into our bodies.
To quote Nadine Artemis of Living Libations,
“There is not a single cell in our body that longs for petro-chemicals”
These products do not offer any nutritive benefit to our bodies whatsoever. There is also concern among researchers who have found significant quantities of these products being stored in the body. They do not know that these quantities can be tolerated without creating a chemical overburden on the body.
Petroleum based products that are often used for sexual lubricants, but should not be:
Baby Oil (which is Mineral Oil), Petroleum Jelly (otherwise known as Vaseline), Petrolatum
The bottom line is, do not use these products as personal lubricants. In addition to the other health concerns, it is very hard to wash away and consequently provides a breeding ground for bacteria and infections such as bacterial vaginosis.
Natural and Organic Personal Lubricants
Natural Water Based Lubricants
Some of the more natural lubricants that are available have created formulations with far cleaner ingredients lists and avoided the use of things like parabens. As you will see there is a variety of alternatives with some being more pure than others. I have mentioned ones that I believe are some of the best alternatives currently available. Choosing the best lubes for yourself depends on the types of bedroom activities that you enjoy and personal preference. So, it is advisable that you try a few and then compare.
Natural Personal Lubricant (Oil Based)
Not recommended for use with latex condoms.
All of the ingredients in the Love Butters have a variety of healing and nutritive qualities, which are inherent to the plants themselves. They will be absorbed by thirsty skin, nourishing and moisturizing while providing luxurious lubrication.
Each ingredient in the Love Butters is of the absolute highest purity and quality and offer vitamins, soothing, healing, toning, and protective qualities to the skin in addition to sensual lubrication.
The Love Butters are edible, organic, smell incredible and contain only the finest ingredients.
Margot Anand, author of, The Art of Sexual Ecstasy has described Radiant Love Butter as,
“The best love-making lubricant I have ever experienced”
You can definitely inspire some sensual adventures with the help of these delectable delights.
Not for use with latex.
Watch this video to learn more about the sacred anointing of your lady garden:
So, Here Are The Bottom Line Recommendations
For Sexual encounters with condoms
For Sexual encounters without condoms
Natural and organic personal lubricants are the healthy way to help you get the most out of your Loving Liasons!